Tuesday, October 18, 2005



Parts By: Mrs. Snoop
Where did they go? I’m not talking about arcane or silly rituals. I’m referring to classic ways of behaving that take very little effort, but go a long ways in keeping the wheels of civility smoothly rolling.

Almost every day I witness someone being rude or acting like their fellow human beings are a burden to them and the world. Almost every day I speak with someone who cannot stand the majority of their fellow humans. And almost every day I hear exchanges that violate the good old fashioned manners my mom taught me.

A few examples -

When someone tells you “Thank you”, what do you respond? If you said “Thank you.” go to the back of the class. The correct answer and response is “You are welcome.” But if you didn’t know that, or don’t respond that way, you are among the majority. Listen to interviews on news programs. I have been listening for years, to no avail. Even if someone does say “you’re welcome” they always (not almost always, but always) add “thank you” to it. The proper response of “You’re welcome” is not archaic and without meaning. Responding “you are welcome” means that the other person’s thanks is acknowledged as valued and accepted. The return “Thank You” makes the exchange into a mini Chip & Dale routine. “Thank you.” “No, thank you” “Oh, no thank YOU.” Etc. Ad nauseam. I know - it’s a small thing, But it irritates me.

How about your manners on the phone. My parent’s taught me to answer the phone “S........ residence, T..... speaking”. To which the person on the other end was supposed to answer, “Hello T. This is......” Once identities were established, the conversation or request could commence with all parties knowing exactly to whom they were speaking. In this day and age of caller ID, the person answering the phone often has a pretty good idea of who is calling. But that doesn’t mean the caller has a clue who they reached. However, it is now an extremely rare thing for someone to identify themself, on either end of the conversation. I do not know about you, but I don’t always recognize people’s voices and it sure would be nice to know (for sure) who I’m speaking to, right from the start. I bet I could pay more attention, right from the start, if I was sure who was on the other end of the line.

These are small, and perhaps petty, observations and complaints. Maybe they don’t really matter to anyone but me. Yet, when I see an increase in the number of people who HATE all other people, who cannot stand to be around fellow human beings, who are surely and rude 24/7...I wonder. Are good manners dead because so many people feel that way, or do these people feel that way because good manners are dead?

Does the following sound like you:

Chomp on food to while talking at the same time, when you damm will know it is inevitable you will spit it at them. Just who taught you to do this?

Talking on a mobile phone on a train or bus. Sometimes it is necessary but it should be done, if at all, with a sense of apology for disturbing others. Virtually no call is that important. What is equally ridiculous is people act as if the call IS that important.

Spitting is a foul habit that spreads disease. When was the last time someone was fined for that? The 1950s? We should fine people for this again.
But some people routinely engage in this activity. These are the same people who scratch their crotch then shake someone’s hand.

However rudeness starts at home. The other day while in a restaurant that idiot mother “allowed” her 2 year old to scream at the top of her lungs, angry that she did not get her way. This jackass when leaving the restaurant continued to leave the door open because her kid did not want to go outside.
Pick up your damm kid and get the hell out!
I guess she called herself teaching her kid a lesson.
However, what she did was anger the patrons of the restaurant.
This is the same little bastard who will, tramp across someones’ lawn or flower bed, throw rocks at someone’s car, fart in a class thinking it funny, lounge on a bus seat while elderly people are forced to stand, talk in a movie theatre, talk on a cell phone in a theater.

Have you ever cut in line, NOT SAID thank you when someone opened a door for you, pounced on you car horn at 6am, allowed your dog to take a crap on someone’s lawn, threw trash or cigarette butts on a sidewalk?

People equate good manners with being "posh, or only for the classy folks" and bad manners with a lack of class. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Rudeness comes from all religious faiths, economic backgrounds, and races.
Thank goodness, my mother dignity and class rubbed off on me a bit.
Growing up in a household where crudeness and rudeness were not exhibited it no doubt helped my brothers and I.
Rudeness like any other human trait is LEARNED. How you speak, how you carry yourself and how you treat others is a direct result of parental nurturing.
Unfortunately, anybody can be a breeder, so the lack of parental skills translates into an increasingly degenerate society.