Friday, October 14, 2005

SNOOPS RELATIONSHIP CORNER
















Ok, Snoop was peeping a morning show talking about relationship issues. The lady being interviewed was way to hard on men and their perception of these issues. Anywho, Snoop did Google University Research and found something more appropriate for you women who will no doubt engage in these behaviors this weekend.

WHO IS THE MORE GUILTY PARTY OF THESE RELATIONSHIP OFFENSES?
SNOOP COURT FINDINGS:


1. Forcing your desire for a relationship onto the other person, and because the other person doesn't know how to say "no," they stay with you. WOMEN GUILTY

2. Everything about the other person tells your head and "gut" they are NOT the one, but you ignore your intuition and mind and go ahead anyhow.
WOMEN GUILTY

3. You mix up someone being nice or friendly with you with romance.
MEN GUILTY

4. You fear or hate being alone, so you latch onto the first person who comes by and is available.
WOMEN GUILTY (although military men are the big abusers of this)

5. You look only at the person's looks and outside "package" and do not investigate or pay attention to what they are really like as a *person*.
MEN GUILTY but we have to be.

6. Even though you know this person has done bad things to other people in past relationships, you choose to believe that he/she will not do the same to you.
WOMEN GUILTY AS HELL!!

7. You mistake your great sexual adventures and fun with this person for love.
WOMEN GUILTY

8. You are in a relationship, but you don't express your feelings and needs to your partner for fear you will hurt their feelings or make them angry.
WOMEN GUILTY

9. You know your partner is deceiving you but you refuse to believe it, even though you know the truth. You stay in denial about it all.
WOMEN GUILTY

10. The other person shows a lot of interest in you and you respond quickly and passionately, without really finding out if this person is who or what you really want in a relationship partner.
WOMEN GUILTY

I FIND YOU WOMEN (GUILTY) OF RELATIONSHIP MALPRACTICE.
PLEASE SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP IMMEDIATELY!

2 Comments:

Anonymous SPG said...

Great site! You've hit it on the head with this post. I've got my own relationship observations that I post on my blog.

Take care.

14.10.05  
Anonymous Terrymum said...

Why would a woman, go after or stay with a man who is not good for them?

First of all, every woman who is with a "bad man" has their own reasons. Some women who grew up in homes where they may have felt they were not valued, neglected or abused emotionally or physically, may grow up feeling that's the only kind of relationship that's possible. They may feel that drawn to neglectful or abusive men because those types of relationships are familiar to them. Most of us automatically avoid the unknown and unfamiliar.

Some women who were abused or neglected as children, or grew up in homes where their mothers were abused even if the children were not, unconsciously seek out similar men in attempts to triumph over their childhood circumstances. They (and other trauma victims) may feel compelled to put themselves in similar abusive or neglectful circumstances again and again, each time believing they'll have a different outcome. It's an attempt to master the past trauma by convincing themselves (and perhaps others) that NOW they have control over the situation. But of course they usually end up being hurt again.

Some women who deny their childhoods were unhappy, neglectful or abusive, or who have amnesia for much of such childhoods, end up in what psychiatrist Richard Kluft has called "sitting duck syndrome" -- repeatedly abused in one relationship after another because they've got blinders on for the warning signs. If they allowed themselves to see (and feel) the danger signals of abuse and neglect, they might recognize those signals were also present in their childhood relationships with parents or siblings, and thus have to face some unpleasant realities about those childhood experiences. They may rather (at an unconscious level) continue to believe their parents were nonabusive, preserving their relationship with their parents at the cost of being able to recognize and respond to hurtful attitudes and behaviors in other relationships.

Another thing to consider is that abusive men (or women) may do a real good job of convincing their partners that it's all their (the partner's) fault, and may isolate the partner from other sources of support so their victim is emotionally and financially dependent on them. Such men may lay on the charm and be very contrite after an explosion or breakup in efforts to win their partners back. A woman who's eager to believe her man will change can succumb to gifts and promises and convince herself (or at least try to convince herself) that things will be different from now on. Some men know just how far to push before reverting back to the charmer that won her over in the first place. It takes years of that kind of abuse first, charm second, before most women figure out that the jerk is really the main personality and take a hike.

And finally, people change. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. If you aren't committed to the relationship, for better or for worse, you aren't going to do the hard work it takes to keep things happy and content for a lifetime!

BOTTOM LINE - FOR EVERY WOMAN (OR MAN) WHO COMMITS RELEATIONSHIP MALPRACTICE, THERE'S A DIFFERENT REASON (OR EXCUSE).

FOR ME, I AM THE TYPE WHO IS DEVOTED TO MAKING IT WORK AND KEEPING MY COMMITMENTS....I ALSO WANT TO BELIEVE IN TRUE LOVE & AM A TRUSTING TYPE (GETTING MORE CYNICAL IN MY OLD AGE, BUT IT'S WORK). IT'S HARD TO BELIEVE THAT SOMEONE IN WHOM YOU ONCE PLACED YOUR ETERNAL TRUST AND RESPECT WOULD ONE DAY CHANGE (OR RETURN TO THEIR TRUE TYPE) TO THE POINT THAT SUCH TRUST AND RESPECT IS NO LONGER WARRANTED. BUT IT HAPPENS. I JUST PRAY IT NEVER HAPPENS TO ME (AGAIN!)!!

17.10.05  

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