Friday, June 17, 2005

Another Triflin’ Ass Nigra

Yes Snoops at it again, I’m watching another court show “Divorce Court” when I see this bitch (photo). The couple on the show who want to divorce mostly because of this bitch.
This bitch has not one, not two, not three, but FOUR kids by the dude who was married. She had these kids during the entire time dude was married AND THE OTHER WOMAN KNEW ABOUT IT!
She actually said “I told Derrick to leave me alone”, and dude tells the judge HE DOES NOT HAVE A JOB! So yes my white brothas and sistas YOU WILL BE PAYING FOR THESE NEGRO CHILDREN.
Yes I know white trailer trash sluts engage in this but since I is black I think this is more fun.

I have said it once and I will continue to say it as long as I have this blog at my fingertips.
ITS ALWAYS THE WOMANS FAULT. Sure you women will get pissed but some of yall’ are so incredible stupid it defies logic.
Also at least one court cases in these shows are tied to some woman LOANING a cell phone to her MAN.
In another court show yesterday a bitch loaned her lover/co-worker $4000!

When I see these tramps on the court shows I don’t even need to turn the sound up.
Yes it is a little predictable but its entertaining.
As the judge says: IGNORANCE IS COSTLY!


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ignorance or love? They both cost the person who engages in them. That's how you know if you are ignorant (or loving someone) - you get hurt.

Blogger Snoop said...

This girl did not LOVE the dude she was screwing around with.
The women who LOAN the cell phones did not LOVE these guys. This is not rocket science. The wife who stayed with this bumbling retarded idiot after she KNEW about the kids by the bitch WAS THAT LOVE!?

Anonymous Anonymous said...

It is often very hard to end a love relationship even when you know it is bad for you. A "bad" relationship is not the kind that is going through the usual periods of disagreement and disenchantment that are inevitable when two separate people come together. A bad relationship is one that involves continual frustration; the relationship seems to have potential but that potential is always just out of reach. In fact, the attachment in such relationships is to someone who is "unattainable" in the sense that he or she is committed to someone else, doesn't want a committed relationship, or is incapable of one. Bad relationships are chronically lacking in what one or both partners need. Such relationships can destroy self-esteem and prevent those involved from moving on in their careers or personal lives. They are often fertile breeding grounds for loneliness, rage, and despair. In bad relationships the two partners are often on such different wave-lengths that there is little common ground, little significant communication, and little enjoyment of each other.

Remaining in a bad relationship not only causes continual stress but may even be physically harmful. An obvious harm is the physical abuse that is often a part of such relationships. In a less obvious way, however, the tensions and chemical changes caused by the constant stress can drain energy and lower resistance to physical illness. Continuing in such bad relationships can lead to unhealthy escapes such as alcohol or drug abuse and can even lead to suicide attempts.

In such relationships, individuals are robbed of several essential freedoms; the freedom to be their best selves in the relationship, the freedom to love the other person through choice rather than through dependency, and the freedom to leave a situation that is destructive.

Despite the pain of these relationships, many rational and practical people find that they are unable to leave, even though they know the relationship is bad for them. One part of them wants out but a seemingly stronger part refuses or feels helpless to take any action. It is in this sense that the relationships are "addictive."
Are You Addicted?

Listed below are several signs of addiction. Consider whether they apply to you:

1. Even though you know the relationship is bad for you (and perhaps others have told you this), you take no effective steps to end it.
2. You give yourself reasons for staying in the relationship that are not really accurate or that are not strong enough to counteract the harmful aspects of the relationship.
3. When you think about ending the relationship, you feel terrible anxiety and fear which make you cling to it even more.
4. When you take steps to end the relationship, you suffer painful withdrawal symptoms, including physical discomfort, that is only relieved by reestablishing contact.

If most of these signs apply to you, you are probably in an addictive relationship and have lost the capacity to direct your own life. To move toward recovery, your first steps must be to recognize that you are "hooked" and then try to understand the basis of your addiction. In this way, you gain the perspective to determine whether, in reality, the relationship can be improved or whether you need to leave it.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

There are several factors that can influence your decision to remainin a bad relationship. At the most superficial level are practical considerations such as financial entanglement, shared living quarters, potential impact on children, feared disapproval from others, and possible disruption in academic performance or career plans.

At a deeper level are the beliefs you hold about relationships in general, about this specific relationship, and about yourself. These beliefs may take the form of learned societal messages such as "Love is forever," "You are a failure if you end a relationship," "Being alone is terrible," and "You should never hurt anyone." Also relevant are beliefs about yourself such as "I'll never find anyone else," "I'm not attractive or interesting enough," or "If I work hard enough I should be able to save this relationship."

At the deepest level are unconscious feelings which can keep you stuck. These feelings develop early in childhood, often operate without your awareness, and can exert considerable influence on your life. Children need to be loved, nurtured, and encouraged in their independence. To the extent that parents are successful in doing this, their children will be able to feel secure as adults in moving in and out of relationships. To the extent that these needs are not met their children may be left feeling "needy" as adults and may thus be more vulnerable to dependent relationships.
Strategies for Overcoming Relationship Addictions

Robin Norwood, in her excellent book "Women Who Love Too Much" outlines a ten step plan for overcoming relationship addiction. While this book is directed toward women, its principles are equally valid for men. Stated here (reordered and sometimes paraphrased), Norwood suggests the following:

1. Make your "recovery" the first priority in your life.
2. Become "selfish," i.e., focus on getting your own needs met more effectively.
3. Courageously face your own problems and shortcomings.
4. Cultivate whatever needs to be developed in yourself, i.e., fill in gaps that have made you feel undeserving or bad about yourself.
5. Learn to stop managing and controlling others; by being more focused on your own needs, you will no longer need to seek security by trying to make others change.
6. Develop your "spiritual" side, i.e., find out what brings you peace and serenity and commit some time, at least half an hour daily, to that endeavor.
7. Learn not to get "hooked" into the games of relationships; avoid dangerous roles you tend to fall into, e.g., "rescuer" (helper), "persecutor" (blamer), "victim" (helpless one).
8. Find a support group of friends who understand.
9. Share with others what you have experienced and learned.
10. Consider getting professional help.

When to Seek Professional Help

Some counseling may be called for when any of these four circumstances exist:

1. When you are very unhappy in a relationship but are unsure of whether you should accept it as it is, make further efforts to improve it, or get out of it.
2. When you have concluded that you should end a relationship, have tried to make yourself end it, but remain stuck.
3. When you suspect that you are staying in a relationship for the wrong reasons, such as feelings of guilt or fear of being alone, and you have been unable to overcome the paralyzing effects of such feelings.
4. When you recognize that you have a pattern of staying in bad relationships and that you have not been able to change that pattern by yourself.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Characteristics and psychology of Addictive Love:

1. Consuming, all-pervasive need for the other person. This might only show up during a breakup where one partner or both feel incomplete without the other.
2. Difficulty defining ego boundaries. This means the partners do not realize where one begins and one ends. A couple is still two separate people!
3. Partners that exhibit sadomasochism. This does not necessarily mean whips and chains. It simply means they tend to either specialize or take turns playing abuser and victim.
4. Each person being afraid to let themselves go and take risks either as individuals or as a part of the couple. They often tend to do the same things and do not try things that are different.
5. Resisting and being fearful when a partner tries to grow personally. The other partner often views this as a threat.
6. Not experiencing true intimacy in any sense - intellectually, spiritually, physically, or emotionally. Intensity takes the place of intimacy. Drama signifying nothing.
7. Partners playing psychological games, as in one being the giver and one playing the victim.
8. Addictive partners barter and keep score, rather than giving freely without expecting something in return.
9. Partners attempting to change the other instead of dealing with their own problems or feelings.
10. Partners requiring the other to feel complete.
11. Seeking solutions for problems from their partners, instead of themselves.
12. Demanding and expecting unconditional love. This type of love can only exist between a parent and a child. We don't always like or approve of what our partners do. There are behaviors a partner cannot allow in the relationship and might well result in its termination
13. Finding it hard to really commit to each other.
14. Partners look to each other for affirmation and worth, rather than to themselves.
15. Fearing abandonment when separated.
16. A tendency to recreate old negative patterns with their present partners that occurred in childhood.
17. Desiring, yet fearing closeness.
18. Attempting to take care of others' feelings (codependence).
19. Playing power and psychology games.

The psychology of additive infatuation is characterized by caring so much for a relationship with another person that self-love and self-respect begin to suffer.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

All of the above is to show that women may not be simply ignorant.... Those who stay in a relationship that is addictive often have a lot more going on (wrong) then simply stupidity.....or weakness....

Blogger Snoop said...

With all due respect to ANNONOMOUS! HMMMMM....

Could you not have made your point with a fraction of the text?

You ever watched a Bruce Lee movie when waves of dudes come at him and he kicking the shit out of them. Now you are towards the back and you see my man Bruce has just kick the shit out of Oh lets say 20 guys up to this point. All of these dudes before you could kick your ass, so what do you do? Wait until the wave hit you and now you are face to face with Bruce or do you get the fuck out of there.
Women have had countless examples of dudes fucking other women around. How many people (women) do you think watched that show? 1 million, 1.5, 2 million. How many will learn by what they saw? From what I continue to see NONE!
I posted before but since its my blog I can post again:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just thought that stuff was interesting (and helpful) to folks dealing with such issues. I guess I rarely see things as black and white, easy or hard. It's always pretty easy to see the mistakes others made or are making. It's a whole lot harder (for most people) to be so objective when viewing their own lives and behaviors. With much self-examination, I bet most honest people could come up with about 10 things they now realize they should not have done (and probably won't do again) but it seemed like a good idea while they were doing it (or going through it). 20 20 hindsight is easy, especially when it comes to looking at other people's behaviors!


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